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Relationship on auto-pilot
We all engage in relationship, day in and day out. Most of the time we do not ask ourselves: "How do I actually do it? Why do it relate this way and not another?" We rarely question the definition of different types of relationship - be it friendship, intimacy or work connections.
Often, we run them according to a set of unspoken principles we collectively assume to be right. As a result, we tend to follow rules without checking whether they truly align with our own needs and desires.
You could say we do relationships on autopilot—without really knowing where we’re headed, or whether the way we’re driving suits all the passengers involved.
So, it’s no surprise that we often find ourselves in relationships feeling frustrated, disconnected, unsatisfied, bored, or even alone.
Topics for relationship counseling
What aspect of your relationship needs special attention?
General
Sometimes everything feels difficult, and we don’t even know where to begin.
Communication
An absolut key in relationship – yet often the root of what goes wrong.
Connection
Feeling deeply connected isn't always easy in our busy and hectic lives.
Intimacy
Sharing intimacy and sexuality can become uneasy or challenged.
Relationship role-models from the past
Like most things in life, we learn about relationships as we grow up—and we continue learning throughout adulthood. What’s crucial, though not widely understood, is that our earliest relationships prime us for life. Meaning, our caregivers don’t just serve as role models for future romantic relationships; the way we bond with them also shapes how we approach and behave in relationships overall.
Understanding this early "priming" can offer valuable insight into the challenges we face in our adult relationships. And when we choose to engage in relationships differently—or outside of traditional social norms—it becomes even more important to reflect on and adjust our inherited conditioning.
Relationship counseling for ethical non-monogamy or polyamory
When we step off the beaten path in how we relate, we encounter all kinds of unfamiliar topics and challenges. Professional support can make a significant difference—helping us ease into new relationship structures and avoid feeling overwhelmed. Below are a few common topics people bring to an ENM (Ethical Non-Monogamy) relationship consultation:
Forms & Labels
From open relationships and sexual exploration to hierarchical polyamory and relationship anarchy—ethically non-monogamous relationships are diverse, and so are the forms and labels we use to describe them.
Communication
The more people involved, the more communication is needed. In this context, strong communication skills aren’t just helpful—they’re often essential to prevent misunderstandings and emotional fallout.
Agreements
When relationships move beyond conventional norms of “right” and “wrong,” we need to define our own agreements and expectations. Clear, co-created agreements and understandings are key.
Desires & Needs
Desires and needs can vary from one relationship to another, from person to person, and even across different times and contexts. Learning to understand and communicate them is fundamental.
Jealousy & Fears
Swimming in uncommon waters will likely bring up insecurities we may not even have been aware of. Having strategies to deal with them helps us stay grounded and connected to ourselves and others.
Safety & Fairness
As more people become involved, emotional and physical safety grows more complex. Being especially mindful of boundaries, consent, and fairness is essential, considering the impact our actions can have on others.
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Relationship counseling as a holistic approach
Mind
Thoughts and beliefs define our reality and relationship.
Body
Our body has its own idea of what feels good and safe.
Emotion
Feelings can be complex and complicated to make sense of.
Every relationship offers a mirror to look at ourselves, where we are and how we are with our entire (nervous) system, the state of mind, our emotional world and the inner relationship to self.
Self
The relationship with ourselves influences how we relate to others.
The other
The other person has their own system of logic.
Experiences
Even if it lays in the past, it most likely influences the present.
Working with Jasmin opened a new door to my inner intimate world. Different parts could be met, seen and integrated. I felt guided in a safe and loving way that allowed deeper layers to emerge. Applying her practices, I’m feeling more connected to my body, less shame and resistance in my intimate parts, my relationship to pleasure keeps improving. Thank you Jasmin 💜
Aniko, 38
Therapist
Jasmin reminded me that I am a sexual being and that it's OK to embrace my desires and experience pleasure. This allowed me to explore a different way of relating to myself and to this taboo subject in our society. I'm grateful for her guidance in helping me to feel empowered and comfortable in my own sexuality.
Djana, 37
Switzerland
